the terrible horrible no good very bad day

this photo has NOTHING at all to do with this post. but it makes me laugh. hard. and plus i can't stand pictureless posts. so there you have it.

it was hard to be a mommy today.

the laundry didn't get done

dinner didn't get made

the floors didn't get mopped

or swept.

the toys stayed scattered about for the most part.

we didn't do all the great winter "lesson plans" i made.

the coffee filter snowflakes will have to wait for another day.

i didn't get out of my sweatshirt and my hair stayed in a ponytail.

we didn't do anything except run one errand.

when j came home for lunch he may or may not have found me sweeping and having a good pity party cry.

you know those days where you feel like you can't do anything right?

and you just KNOW you are supposed to be the kind of mommy who can

make dinner from scratch every night

and not let the laundry pile up in the basement

and look flawlessly beautiful

and exercise

and have perfectly behaved children

and have a perfectly clean home

and not feel like you are going to SCREAM like a madwoman every time you take your children somewhere and it takes you 1293842304892348230 hours to do a task that probably takes other people an hour to do?

and then you realize

that that is RIDICULOUS.

and that no one can do all those things. or even some of them.

and if they act like they can do ALL those things, they aren't telling the truth.

on a good day, you'll see me with makeup on, and a yummy dinner in the oven. and i won't be running around like a madwoman. there won't be little girl clothing and tutus strewn about.

on a mediocre day, i'll be in my slippers, the house will be semi-clean.

on a bad day, we'll all be in our pajamas, eating chicken nuggets, and the floors will desperately need to be swept.

but you know what? it's life.

i am the best mommy i can be. i have two baby girls that 99 percent of the time...crack me up. and make me smile. and drive me a little bit mad.

i need to learn to let it go.

not be so hard on myself. but it's a struggle. i always feel like i should be BETTER. do it ALL.do it PERFECTLY.

that's crazy talk. God made me  perfectly flawed. and sometimes that means having a dance party with the girls while the laundry piles up. b/c it keeps me sane.

or maaaaaybe sometimes i have to hang out upstairs with a nice glass of white wine while J entertains the girls. and by "hang out" i mean "hide". not that i would ever actually do that....uhhh

anywayyyyyyyyy

and now that i have typed this out? i feel much better.

thanks for listening.

xxo

Comments

[Nicole Harper]

type away, sister...i love ya.
:)

[Amy]

you are the BEST!

[Soldier Girl]

sometimes you just gotta do what you gotta do and if that means having a who gives a damn day then hell take the whole week and just be that way.. I bet you on day 8 you will feel a WHOLE lot better .. nobody is perfect .. your only obligation is what you do daily with those girls and to be HUMAN .. good vent.

[Acompton]

stephenie. You are the best. You just summed up my day with your post perfectly. Thanks for keeping it real.

[Sue 'OGee']

Maybe Martha Stewart can do all that, but doesn't she have a staff of about 30?? You're an incredible Momma. Don't stress. Love you.

[Keshet]

Love this post. I have been having anxiety myself on the state of our shower--it's a good thing I don't wear glasses in there and can't see the corners! But you can't do everything, you really can't, and in the scheme of things cleaning if probably less important:)

[Tina Brown]

you know what? that is what we are here for...you are an amazing woman, wife and mommy and always remember that!!!!

[Liz]

I just recently told my husband that often times my expectations (of perfection) lead to disappointment. I would rather live life with my children (4 years and 21 months)in a semi-clean house, and go thru the McDonald's drive thru in my PJ's/sweats every now and then than try to maintain that unrealistic "perfect persona".
Say it with me: I AM NOT ALONE! THERE ARE MANY OTHERS JUST LIKE ME!

[jeni allen]

girl, you are NOT alone! i'm still in my pjs, and so is my daughter! we only took my son to school and picked him up today. my baby is dressed, but not in something that covers her bowl full of jelly belly!:) ok, my floor just got taken care of and looks nice, but that is because we just cleaned up after stamping/creating for most of today. there is purple stickles glitter on my white studio furniture...and my baby is currently taking the acrylic stamps off several sheets she just found and is trying to stick them to her face...and i'm sitting here laughing at her! girl, i'm with you. it's nice to know i'm not alone!!!

[Lynn G]

i've been having one ... or two ... or a few ... of those days recently. not sure why i'm in a funk or where it came from but thank you for reminding me that we're all allowed to feel funky sometimes because that's what makes us who we are. oh and chicken nuggets are served on a GOOD day in my house ... it's toaster waffles on a bad day around here. hugs!

[Gina]

yea for husbands and yea for bloggers that TELL THE TRUTH!!! THanks. I had one of those days today too (my kids are 3, just turned 2 and 5 months) and I needed reminded of what you just said. :)

May tomorrow be a good day!

[Erin]

Yeah...pretty sure I've never had one day when all those things applied. On good days I exercise and have dinner made (although not always from scratch). Heck, a lot of days I don't even shower unless I worked out and had to. In my opinion, showering, doing my hair and putting clothes other than workout clothes or sweats on is highly overrated.

[Jill Sprott]

"Perfectly flawed", yes, and that's how we love you!

[Katrina]

Amen sista....You can sing it from the roof tops. We can only be the best Mommy we can be. I use to try to be a perfect Mommy when I was your age and went into such a deep depression because I thought I just wasn't doing my best. I soon learned that my kids didn't need a perfect Mom they just needed me to be me. Hang in there tomorrow is another day. Luv Ya!

[Lori Borntreger]

Great post Stephanie!!! We all have those days, and I love that you are able to share them with us to get it off your chest!!! You are not alone!!! Here's to hoping tomorrow is a better day!!!

[Rachel]

I could have posted the exact same thing today! I keep reminding myself tomorrow is a new day! My husband has been deployed for six months and there's no one here but me to know how bad the day was! :)

[Leslie Moradi]

If anybody tells you they have perfect kids-RUN!!!! FAST!!!! You don't want to be with them anyway. We all have those days- we didn't leave the house for 3 days last week-we colored, painted, tickled, napped, ate, .... i think i stayed in my pj's one whole day and it was great. My kids loved it!!! Your kids are adorable and spunky and have personalities. Enjoy it because it goes fast-mine are 6 and 4 and where did those years go????? and Welcome to Georgia!!!

[Stephanie H]

And this is why I love you.
Yesterday was so craptastic that I didn't even try today. A.J. and I stayed in our jammies (complete with lime green slipper socks for me) and cuddled.
Tomorrow is a new day.

[Bree]

"The most important thing she'd learned over the years was that there was no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one."
-- Jill Churchill

This quote hangs on my fridge as a daily reminder. I stare at it through tears sometimes, but knowing it is common to most all of us mamas is a comfort. I've been there too.

[Mary Rogers]

awww Steph! thank goodness tomorrow is another day! hugs

[Michelle Whitlow]

ugh, I'm always so glad when someone posts something like this!!! Some days it's just so hard to keep everything together. It's a good thing we can go to sleep that night and start the next day fresh!!

[may]

If you didn't have days like this, the great days wouldn't be as special. It's my belief that what makes you 'perfectly flawed' is effort. You do your best, you try hard, and you don't try to make excuses for the bad days or failures. They, like a certain bodily function, happen.
It's all a part of life, it's all good, and you're doing a wonderful job. What would be the fun if you were perfect always? It would be BORING. Imperfection rocks - keep on keeping on girl!!

[Elizabeth]

It's healthy to vent...we're all human,...it's all about Balance...hee hee...you won't be able to appreciate the good ones without the bad ones right?...life is not perfect...if it was...it would be terribly boring. "So here's to tomorrow" (I'm holding up my glass of white wine to you right now) "A better day...start anew!...Cheers!"
BTW...love the pic. too.

[Mary Jo]

I could have posted this exact post today. Well except I have a boy and a girl, so there are tutus and legos strewn about. Said boy is sick with a double ear infection. I definitely didn't exercise or take a shower til a the littlest one was put to bed just a bit ago. And the cleaning I was going to do, well that just didn't happen for the most part.

But I did manage to scramble some eggs for me and the littlest for dinner while Evan was napping. And I did get the ornaments off the tree though not all packed with the little ones help. And I did manage to get my oldest to the pediatrician and feeling better today.

So I completely get what you are saying! But what I've tried to do lately (tried being the operative word)is focus on what I did manage to accomplish. And like you said realize I am being the best mom I can be imperfections and all. I think we have all been there. But I also think it's definitely to have a good pity party cry once in awhile, too :0)

[nic]

i had a chicken nugget day myself today...lol

[Mary Jo]

Sorry - lots and lots of typos in that previous post. That's what happens when you are going on two hours sleep :0)

[Natalie]

WOW!! I thought I was the only one! hehe! so I guess I am human after all..... our difference is you make it sound so much better than what really happens in my house.

:0)Natalie

[Michelle]

Here's where I think we go wrong as mothers: who says staying in pajamas and eating chicken nuggets has to count as a bad day?! Sounds like near perfection to me!! Hugs!

[Brooke Whitis]

love that picture. I think it is the lifetime 'woman struggle' to believe we aren't good enough. That we never will be. As a wife, as a mom, as a (former) teacher, as a blogger even. I'm glad you can be honest and real....I bet you feel a bit better just by sharing :)

[noell]

Hugs, Stephanie. The good news is it will get easier when your youngest is a bit older (depending on how many more babies you have, that could be close and it could be a while, lol). Getting all my kids in school showed me to my sanity once again.

[Katie]

BIG Hugs! You are my total hero. I have been there, done that and cried in a locked bathroom many times. Being a mom is hard. Being a military wife is hard. You are an amazing woman doing an amazing job! Now go refill that glass of wine and find some chocolate!!!

from a retired Navy wife!

[Kimber-Leigh]

oh steph. i hear ya. i wrote that post in my head the other night. ;) i think we all feel this way again and again. that's why my blog has the title it does. because "His mercies are new every morning. great is His faithfulness." as a mother (and a wife and a woman) i cling to the truth of that verse and claim it.

and as for today, all my "first of the year, brent's back at work" grand plans went south when i woke up sick. the best laid plans....here's looking to a brighter tomorrow, okay?

[Deana Boston]

That post made me smile. Yay for some hiding time... :-)

[Jenni Hufford]

oh my you perfectly described days i experience OFTEN. i often think working at a desk job would be so much easier- but this is so much more rewarding and my heart is so full. thanks for sharing your feelings. you are not alone! (PS i agree, a glass of wine always helps:)

[Laura]

Oh you are so not alone. I can throw a pity party like nobodies business. Cheers to finding something to keep you sane....my sanity comes in the shape of a nice shiraz :)

[Tina]

Oh Stephanie hang in there...you are certainly NOT alone!!!!!!!! I feel like that quite often myself!!!!!! Your girls are extremely lucky to have you as their mommy...remember that!!!!!!!!!

[Jennifer]

Today was JUST like that for me, too...and right now my hubby is entertaining the kids so that I can have a few minutes of peace. He is even going to put them to bed solo! So I'm hiding in my office reading blogs...the only thing missing is a glass of wine. :)

Hope tomorrow is better!

[qsogirl]

that picture makes me smile.

and sending you virtual ::hug:: and hoping tomorrow will be a better day for you. i hope that when i'm a mom i can be as put-together as you! i think you're doing great ;-)

[Jennifer Brannies]

This is me almost every day. And ya know what, I don't care. LOL
I only have one little guy and I'd rather play with him and not miss anything cute that he does versus laundry. It'll be there tomorrow. No biggie.

[Andi Sexton]

You know why you do this to yourself, don't you???

Because you care!

You care to be the best mom/parent/wife/woman you can be.

Some of us are wired that way. Others don't give a cr*p...

It's just the beginning.. Wait until your kids are at school and you ask yourself.. 'Where are the other parents? why aren't they here on Open House night to meet the teacher?'... same thing with school fundraisers and helping in the classroom.. Some will take time off from their jobs and make it a point to be there.. others won't...

Some care. Some don't...

[courtney]

I had one of those days today and you summed it up perfectly. When you're a mama those days are just normal. When things get done it's a GOOD day for me! I always remind myself that there's always bedtime...then I can clean...or take a bath and drink wine. whatever.

[Erin R.]

A few weeks ago, I heard a wonderful sermon from a guest pastor and one of the points in her message was that we fall into a habit of comparing other people's "public" to our "private". That has stuck with me each time I start to beat myself up over not being "super woman".

[Rita]

you know what?? if you didn't have days like this, you would appreciate the good ones so much!!! I so remember days like that, when my boys were little & I had to have "mommy" timeouts in my closet.

[Sheila H]

Ah yes. I remember those days. Embrace the concept of "good enough". My girls are 12 and 15 now and we still dance in the kitchen. And they fondly remember those fun times from when they were little. They will never remember if the floor was swept every day.
Hang in there!

[Jenni]

Love this post Stephanie...just so real and honest and how I feel many many days. I love how you put it---how God made you perfectly flawed...good to know he planned it that way right?! HUGS to you and know you're not alone! =)

[april jaehn]

Sigh..."perfectly flawed" bears repeating. I am so there with you--nice to know we're not alone. : )april

[Cari Skuse]

Big hug to u Steph! I had that day yesterday. You'd think the kids would know how to act in public by the age of 7, but no. They had to talk loudly in the restaurant about how there was no toilet paper in the bathroom to wipe their butt! UGH. And that was just the tip of the iceberg.

[Jacqueline]

Oh Stephanie...we can all relate to you. This is what we love about you...you are real. Thank you for being who you are.

[Meghann]

Stephanie, I appreciate you being so open on your blog! It is so refreshing. Those moms that look like they have everything together 100% of the time? They have nannies & maids. =) Go have TWO glasses of wine!

[Dawn]

Tomorrow has got to be better...Get some sleep...a good night's sleep always helps...oh yeah and a glass of wine can't hurt either :)

[Mary Ann]

:)

[Tere]

I love this part of your post:

[strong]...and if they act like they can do ALL those things, they aren't telling the truth."[/strong]

I decided this year nobody will make me feel like I'm the worst SAHM ever. Is funny that they say that but when you unexpectedly stopped by their houses, and you know they are home (and they are not sick or something like that)... they never answer the door???? :)

[Davinie]

Chicken nugget days happen. I think you handled it very well! It's hard to remember they are wee lassies when it feels like they are running the place. hugs!

[reyanna]

And this is just ONE reason why your blog... is one of my very favorite blogs ever. I love you!! :-)

[Kim]

The sun will come out again tomorrow!!!

[erin]

oh hello there steph!
welcome to my world:) why is it that we mommas do that to ourselves? today was a perfect example of that. 1/2 the laundry got done, my house until 4pm still had xmas decorations strewn about, dinner was no where in sight, and i finally, finally let it go, and just joined the party...dancing, singing, knock knock jokes and all. and stayed in my sweaty workout clothes all day. til 6pm. um yeah, sums it up!
love your honesty. very brave girl.
erin

[Mandy Ni B]

what you wrote.....is whats inside every home, everywhere, and inside every mommy everywhere. I am saving this post and will read it back to myself when I am having one of those "oh so many days" there is a great comfort in your words, thank you so much for letting them out and sharing them.

big hugs mandyxx heres to many more good days than "those days" :)

[Inspired1]

I love your honesty. My girls are 18 and 21 and have one foot out the door. When I think back to their childhood, especially the early years, I put way too much pressure on myself to do everything perfect - be the perfect mom and wife. My only regret is that I worried too much and didn't play enough. I wasted so much time cleaning, cooking, worrying. Enjoy these days Stephanie, I know you do. The rest of the stuff (laundry, cleaning,...) gets done. You have one beautiful family.

[Rhona]

I don't think there's a mum anywhere who can't relate to your post. I've never met one of those "perfect" mums - everyone has good and bad days. I think the most important thing is that your girls will remember the fun times spent with you - they won't be worried about whether you missed sweeping or doing laundry or whatever. If you could see my house at the moment yours would probably look pretty good!! Love and enjoy your girls, they don't stay small for long!

[Monica McNeill]

I've heard that if we were perfect then there wouldn't be any room for God. So, the way I see it, I don't want to be perfect if it means I have to live without his Grace. Here's hoping that you don't have another Alexander day today. Which, of course, is my favorite children's book :)

[Kami]

I have soooo many days like this! I too feel that my house needs to be perfectly clean at all times, I am not happy unless it is!! And the kids, even though they are only trying to play and have fun, drive me crazy with their loud noises! It is a hard battle to keep sane and stop and remember why we are mommies in the first place. They are blessings, and we are only human and can do only so much in one day. Hang in there, you ARE a fantastic mother, that I am sure!!!!

[Maryangella]

What??????????? You are not perfect???????
Bwwahhhaaahaa!!!! None of us are sweetie :)
I have been playing nurse Betty to our 3 year old for the past 5 days and between the fevers and the wheezing and being up almost all night, I'm surprised my house does not look like a hurricane has hit it but I tell myself "as long as I have not forgotten our 6 year old at school and the kids have been fed and bathed then I'm doing ok"
Oof! That felt good to get out!
I hope today is a better day!

[Ana F.]

Yesterday was a bad day here too. At night the Mount Everest of laundry to be fold was still there, I was still in sweat pants, no makeup, pony tail and we had frozen lasagna for dinner. It's like what did I do the whole day? I know I did not stop, but nothing got done. I used to feel so guilty about days like that but I learned to let it go. (Oh, and husband and kids said the lasagna was delicious!)

[Kellie Dugan]

Enjoy each and every minute of those girls. The laundry, floor, & dishes, can wait. I have a sick one home with me today so you can imagine nothing will get done. That is ok though. My house never said "Thank You Mommy, I love you!" or "You make my tummy feel dood!". Need I say more? I'm a sucker for their lovin.

[Cheryl]

As a mom of children that are much older than yours, my advice is as follows...your children will little for a VERY short time, so enjoy these precious, fleeting moments while you can. Before you know it, they will be grown and out the door. In the blink of an eye, your little chicks will be grown women. Until then, don't sweat the small stuff. You have the rest of your life to have clean floors and folded laundry. This time with your girls, right now, is the real deal...love every second of it. Oh, by the way, it's obvious that you're a wonderful mother.

[EvelynB]

I laughed out loud about the "hiding" part. :-) ...and that you admitted it to the world. I love it! There will always be good days and bad days, regardless of what job you have - I can tell you are a GREAT mom!

[Jonnelle]

Yep, right there with you! We are here to listen (read) and nod our heads because you are SOOO right!
And hiding with a glass of wine is the perfect way to end one of "those" days!!
{hugs}

[ShellyJ]

amen, sister. amen.

[MelissaS]

ditto ditto ditto what everyone else has commented. It is SO nice to read an honest post and know that we are not alone!!

[Mustangkayla]

I have many a days like that myself. I have been told it gets better, but that doesn't really help right now does it. My DH finally admited that he feels bad for me and he is glad he works and I am the one staying home. That, itself, helped me more than he wil ever know! Hang in there....You are a incredible mom, I can tell from your posts and pictures.

That picture, itspriceless...oh my word is it ever funny!

[Mauri]

Thanks, I needed to hear that. Yesterday I had a big pity party for myself as I laid in bed crying. Luckily my Mom was home when I called and by the end of our conversation she had me drying my eyes and even cracking a smile. Thanks for letting us other Moms out here know we are not alone!

[Renee May]

I love this post! I know just how you feel, so do a lot of us moms out there. I don't know why we do that, compare ourselves to some impossible fantasy that exists only in the minds of women... Thank goodness God made us all perfectly flawed!

[Kim Faucher]

AMEN to that!!! You and me both girlie... we can work on this together.... laugh, play and dance more... the kiddos will be better off for it... and tomorrow... we can do the laundry ;)
Kim

[Sarah]

Oh, Steph. Thank you! I am there many, many days. It's so nice to know we're not alone, even though we feel like all the "other moms" are so put together! The truth is, none of us are! Hugs, momma!

[Carrie]

Aww, sweetie - we all have those days. Sometimes it seems like it happens more often than not. Today WILL be a better day. :) I agree that it gets easier as they get older. Make sure you find some time for scrap therapy!

[tara pakosta]

Yes, my dear, we do ALL have those days!
FOR SURE! I have them alot, rest assured....
you take that "me time" whenever you can get it and don't feel one less bit of a mommy for it either!!!!! you deserve it! little ones can wear the energy right out of you and trust me, my bigger ones, still wear me out, but it's more mentally exhausting as they get older than physically. UGH!!!!! it's just a different kind of wearing you out! go SCRAPBOOK! love and hugs. tara

[Lyn kearns]

I swear my friend and I had this almost exact conversation yesterday! You do such a wonderful job of making us all feel normal, and I love your honesty.

[Pam k]

REAL life is always hard. That's what makes it so rewarding! I will admit I screamed so loud one time that it stopped my kids dead in their tracks. They both started crying. Not so nice moment, but it is what it is. I remember it, but I don't think they do. I hope you have a good day!

[Angela W]

We all do the best we can, and for some of us that still isn't enough! You are a wonderful mommy to your 2 precious girls! Life happens and somethings things don't get done. They'll still be to do the next day! Love and Hugs to you!

[Jessica Hess]

Sounds like you are doing the same as me. Just try your hardest and then no one, not even you and say that you aren't doing the best you can. I like the idea of the dancing, by the way.:-)

[Lexi]

I am still in my jammies.
no bra.
teeth not brushed.
no lunch made.
boy toys everywhere.
messy laundry room.
messy HOUSe for that matter.
but at the moment, 2 little boys are napping.
And all is right with the world ;)

[Lindsay]

First of all, that photo of Sadie is just TOO funny!

I could have written this post myself, girlie! It is so difficult not to put pressure on ourselves as women, wives, and mothers to be perfect. Remember that it is the laughter of those precious little girls that counts and means the most! Take care! :)

[Elisabeth Costa]

Glad to hear we're all part of the same "mommy" family!! I was thinking this week I'd get the house back in order, Christmas decorations down....Yesterday picked up my daughter early from school with a tummy ache and my son is home today with a bad head cold. But we did have my parents over for dinner last night, watched the Jr hockey game together (congrats US boys) and today I did make a pot of homemade soup. Some of the "small" things tend to become the real things that make up our days and the things that really matter in the end. Hope you enjoy a better day tomorrow:)

[Vivian]

I feel this way at leat once a week.
It's good to know we're not alone.
Thanks.

Oh, BTW?? Gotta love Sadie & the llama(?) - TOO funny!

[corey brock]

HAHA!!! Great entry! I can totally relate!!! :-) Ah, the bittersweetness of motherhood! It's wonderful in all its chaos! Thanks for making me feel "normal."
Corey Brock
New Smyrna Beach, FL

[Shannon]

Thank you for this post! I really needed the reminder today that I will never be perfect or live up to my too high expectations and that I need to let it go!

[tracy]

I recently read a comment that helped me.
"Life is hard. When you realize that and accept it, life becomes much easier."

I think you have the perfect attitude! :)

[Heather]

I love that you are not perfect....just like the rest of us mommies trying to do the best we can. Thanks for your honesty!

[Christina Ocampo]

I am so happy to hear that I am not the only Mommy that feels like I have to do everything PERFECT & just need to learn how to "let it go". Thank you for sharing this post! Your attitude about mommy life is just perfect!

[young c]

Sorry you had a bad day! We've all been there. :)

[Vel]

Nothing wrong with a pity party...we've all been there, probably most of us every other day. So let it out! :)

[Kirsten]

Oh dear, I know how sad a pity party is...chin up, kiddo, and as long as the good days keep happening here and there, you're doing fine. You could be me, and have taken off your t-shirt last night at bedtime and your diamond stud could have fallen out of your ear and flown who-knows-where in your absolute mess of a closet, and then asked your husband to help and had him discover the pile of mail you accidentally forgot you stuffed in there when you did a mad-dash housecleaning the week before Christmas...he was actually pretty nice about that, since I was so sad about my earring. And no, we didn't find it. I have to gut the closet and finally get it clean and organized. And hopefully I will find it.

[jenney]

What a great post! I always joke with my bff that we hate those moms that show up at preschool on time, looking absolutely perfect and their kids look perfect too. I have no idea how they do it but it makes me feel better to "know" that their house has to be very messy or they have to have no life. LOL

Thanks for the reminder that we aren't supposed to be perfect. =)

[Lynn]

Think everyone has days like that, hope tomorrow is better :) I have really high unrelenting standards for myself & they never do me any good, just make me feel like I am failing in everything cause I'm never quite good enough. It was comforting to read your post & know that someone else feels the same way. Like you though I try to stay positive & realise my imperfections are what makes me 'me' :)

[Melanie Smith]

Wow. Looks like I'm far from alone. God bless you all sisters!

[Angie F]

LOVE your post!! :) Feels so good not to be the ONLY one!! :) I know I'm not the only one, but it sure feels like it on the craziest of days!! Take Care!! :)

[heather garl]

So true! I'd have to add...be happy with what I have and who I am....not to be so envious and jealous of other ladies who I think have it all (because they really don't).

[Houston]

We all have those days sweet girl and you're right God made you perfectly to be their momma and j's wife and you are darn good at it so don't beat yourself up. My motto somedays is... a bath with bubbles and a glass of wine makes a mommy feel just fine!

[Erika M]

Venting is good for the soul! I understand how you feel ( I have those type of days as well)

[Julie]

all i can say is... ditto.